T is for Tarot reading.
One of the biggest obstacles in reading the Tarot for yourself, or someone you are close to, is maintaining some objectivity.
Trying to decipher what the cards are trying to tell you, against what you wish the cards to be telling you, is one of the most difficult aspects of readings.
If you are feeling very emotionally caught up in the situation you have drawn cards for, an objective reading becomes impossible.
I find I also run into this dilemma when reading for my Daughter.
It is hard to separate my instinct for giving my own advice and just reading the cards as I would for someone I am not emotionally connected to.
Even if I can manage to do this, I find my own wants for her get all tangled up in my interpretations, muddying the waters and making a clear and useful reading an impossibility.
Yet, all is not lost, as I have found a way around this problem.
The way I work around this, especially when reading for myself, is through writing.
After laying my spread, I do a survey of the cards overall.
Looking at suits, numbers, recurring symbolism and cards that have similarities to each other.
This stage is done the same as you would reading for others, as it just gives you a feel for the direction and focus of the reading, whether it be health, relationships, money etc.
A lot of information can be gleaned from looking at the spread as a whole, but that is another post altogether.
It is when we start interpreting individual cards, that our emotional investment starts to become a problem.
As I interpret a specific card I begin to write about the card, the standard interpretations, as well as my personal understanding and experience of the card and the feelings it imparts at the time.
But as I write, I will write in the third person, disconnecting the flow of words from myself.
Lets say we are doing a reading, for ourselves, on our relationship.
We know in our hearts that this relationship is not working out, that it is drawing to an end.
Yet we can’t admit this to ourselves, maybe still loving the person in question.
Here, our hopes and desires will override the message of the cards, we will see hope where there is none.
In other words, we will see only what we want to see.
If we can’t separate ourselves, our emotions, from the card, our interpretations will be only what we hope, not what is actually in front of us.
Writing about each card in the third person, is my way around this.
Say we have drawn the Four of Cups in a position that indicates the current situation of the relationship.
Obviously there is much sadness and despair present.
But in our hope, we seek out the positive aspects of the card, ignoring the feel of the card as a whole.
In this example, we begin to write.
“He sits at the bar, broken and despairing.
He is highly emotional, and won’t accept the help or advice of those around him.
He focuses only on his inner turmoil.”
Looking at the card as an impartial reader, I would suggest this relationship is causing nothing but misery.
In the barmaid offering two full cups, I see a much happier future with someone else, or in life after the end of the relationship.
This is something the querent is unwilling to see at this time, but will come to understand that they are better off without their current partner, once the emotional impact of separation has passed.
In this way, we write about the man in the card, as if he is someone else, we are not focusing on our own hopes for this card.
After we have done this exercise for each card in the spread, we can read through our thoughts as though having written for someone else.
We then have an objective reading.
The next step, is gaining acceptance of this advice and taking it on-board for our own situation.
I find this method works very well for me.
It allows for the circumnavigation of my own hopes for the outcome of the reading.
I find I also gain deeper understanding and insight from the spread, as when I have worked through each card, I have basically written a story, something I find much easier to do through pen and paper.
This also gives you a thorough record of the reading, and is useful to refer back to later.